#1. Can you truly be FRIENDS with someone your still/use to be in love with?
#2. Can you be BEST FRIENDS with someone your still/use to be in love with?
Now with those questions in mind...watch this video and listen.
I've seen this video quite a few times since it's premier but for me this speaks nothing but the truth when this situation arises. After he gives his heart to her he says:
" I don't know why it works this way...but I'll never be able to get over you so from now on every girl I meet will be meticulously compared to you and unfortunately none of them will be able to measure up to the "false" memory of what me and you had...."
"Now that you have my heart I am an empty cavity...for lack of a better term HEARTLESS....i will now treat each woman i meet with a passive aggressive contentiousness which will ruin relationship after relationship for many years to come..."
She says " I really treasure your friendship...so much..."
so with him feeling that way can he truly be JUST friends with her...BEST friends at that? is it possible? I know time fixes everything but can TIME really let two people just be platonic friends while or if the other one was in love with them at some point?
As much as I would like to think so...part of me thinks that you can't completely be JUST FRIENDS. Friends share things together...BEST FRIENDS share everything...including new romances in their lives...so when someone you use to date ends up being your best friend....and they have a new person in their life, how does that work when it comes time to introduce the new person? Will you always have to be considerate of the other persons feelings because you don't want to hurt them....or do yo live your life and just ignore the fact that the other person loves you or has loved you. Do you swallow up your feelings and just go through with pretending? do you sacrifice your feelings so that you can be a true "friend" ?
It seems like a really sticky situation but with proper time and communication maybe it can happen...maybe you can be best friends with someone you use to love...or maybe you just love that person so much that you at least HOPE that TIME will fix everything and one day things like that just won't phase you...maybe its all just hope and your really just holding on to a friendship because you don't want to lose being around the one you love? Maybe you just need to let everything go because sometimes it really does have to be ALL or NOTHING.
Personally I don't have the answers, I can only say that each situation is different and although everyone can have an opinion about it no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors, and no one will ever know where your heart is. Some people are worth the fight...the anguish...the awkwardness...some friendships just mean that much to me. For me...she does and although sometimes I feel like throwing in the towel...I know that there are people in this world that you will never come across again so you have to cherish them regardless of how hard it can be. Some Best Friends you can't afford to lose...and for me...she is and will always be that BEST FRIEND I can never lose.
"Friends come and go, romances come and go, money comes and goes...but YOU I can't let go for YOU are me and I am you....its true..we are one."
-Release & Pray-
~A...
2 comments:
You could be friends with an ex lover, however, if you still have love for that person, then I dont see how you can become best friends with that person. I think that you are hurting yourself more by not letting them go.
I think the song pretty much answers your question...its a negative....you are only hurting yourself....
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