These questions have been plaguing me...

#1. Can you truly be FRIENDS with someone your still/use to be in love with?


#2. Can you be BEST FRIENDS with someone your still/use to be in love with?


Now with those questions in mind...watch this video and listen.

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I've seen this video quite a few times since it's premier but for me this speaks nothing but the truth when this situation arises. After he gives his heart to her he says:

" I don't know why it works this way...but I'll never be able to get over you so from now on every girl I meet will be meticulously compared to you and unfortunately none of them will be able to measure up to the "false" memory of what me and you had...."

"Now that you have my heart I am an empty cavity...for lack of a better term HEARTLESS....i will now treat each woman i meet with a passive aggressive contentiousness which will ruin relationship after relationship for many years to come..."

She says " I really treasure your friendship...so much..."

so with him feeling that way can he truly be JUST friends with her...BEST friends at that? is it possible? I know time fixes everything but can TIME really let two people just be platonic friends while or if the other one was in love with them at some point?

As much as I would like to think so...part of me thinks that you can't completely be JUST FRIENDS. Friends share things together...BEST FRIENDS share everything...including new romances in their lives...so when someone you use to date ends up being your best friend....and they have a new person in their life, how does that work when it comes time to introduce the new person? Will you always have to be considerate of the other persons feelings because you don't want to hurt them....or do yo live your life and just ignore the fact that the other person loves you or has loved you. Do you swallow up your feelings and just go through with pretending? do you sacrifice your feelings so that you can be a true "friend" ?

It seems like a really sticky situation but with proper time and communication maybe it can happen...maybe you can be best friends with someone you use to love...or maybe you just love that person so much that you at least HOPE that TIME will fix everything and one day things like that just won't phase you...maybe its all just hope and your really just holding on to a friendship because you don't want to lose being around the one you love? Maybe you just need to let everything go because sometimes it really does have to be ALL or NOTHING.

Personally I don't have the answers, I can only say that each situation is different and although everyone can have an opinion about it no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors, and no one will ever know where your heart is. Some people are worth the fight...the anguish...the awkwardness...some friendships just mean that much to me. For me...she does and although sometimes I feel like throwing in the towel...I know that there are people in this world that you will never come across again so you have to cherish them regardless of how hard it can be. Some Best Friends you can't afford to lose...and for me...she is and will always be that BEST FRIEND I can never lose.

"Friends come and go, romances come and go, money comes and goes...but YOU I can't let go for YOU are me and I am you....its true..we are one."

-Release & Pray-

~A...

Seriously...WTF...like really WTF!

Brittany Zimmerman, a 21-year-old college student who wanted to be a doctor, called 911 as she was being attacked by a stranger, police say. But the police did not come for 48 minutes. By that time, Zimmerman was dead. Her fiance found her body.
Although the dispatcher claimed later to have heard nothing, the 911 tape captured screams, gasps and what sounds like a struggle, according to the court documents.
Zimmerman had been stabbed multiple times in her chest, near her heart. She’d also been beaten and strangled, according to warrants released recently. Zimmerman managed to call 911 at 12:20 p.m. The call was taken by the Dane County 911 center and an internal investigation revealed the dispatcher did not hear any sounds that would signal an emergency.
Because of that, police were not sent to the apartment until 48 minutes after Zimmerman made the call. Her fiance was already there.

This just makes no sense! I guess next time someone calls they have to make sure to say "HELP BITCH IM GETTING STABBED!"

Does this Offend you?

The Label Reads:

" Warning:

This is a work of fiction. Do NOT take it literally.

CONTENT ADVISORY:

Contains verses descriptive or advocating suicide, incest, bestiality, sadomasochism, sexual activity in a violent context, murder, morbid violence, use of drugs or alcohol, homosexuality, voyeurism, revenge undermining authority figures, lawlessness, and human rights violations and atrocities.

EXPOSURE WARNING:

Exposure to contents for extended periods of time or during formative years of children may cause delusions, hallucinations, decreased cognitive and objective reasoning abilities, and in extreme cases pathological disorders, hatred, bigotry, and violence including, but not limited to fanaticism, murder, and genocide."

MY THOUGHTS

I've currently been reading the bible (NLT) and there are some inconsistantcies , and contridictions in it...how ever to say it is completely fiction and not to be taken literally is wrong, in my opinion.

I don't know everything there is to know about the Bible (who exactly wrote it, when or why it was that it was written over 100 years after Christ ) but I do know that it is the living word and although it was written by man and not by God himself, I feel that most of what it says in the bible is not fiction. It is my belief that there are things that have been misinterrperted and/or omitted by man for his own benefit. Take in to consideration what time period this was written in and what mind set society was in back then. Women weren't seen as equal to men, and slavery was a normal thing ... I personally don't find it THAT offensive but I am sure that other folks will... Opinions?

Good Point Mr. Savage!

Straight from PerezHilton.com!
While we commend D. L. Hughley for operating with respect toward guest Dan Savage, a gay activist and writer, despite his conflicting views. We also have to point out that Hughley comes off as an ill-informed ill-articulated moron!!!!

In a discussion regarding Proposition 8, Hughley - who admits he's "not a regular churchgoer" - stutters and flounders in an attempt to hide behind his cafeteria approach to religion: "I can't, for whatever reason, is it my religious upbringing, I don't condone a gay lifestyle."

Oh, we're sorry, we didn't know it was a "lifestyle."

Last time we checked, Perez was born gay - VERY gay!

Savage says that it is the duty of the gay community to reach out, but also "It's the responsibility of white people not to be racist. It's the responsibility of men not to be sexist. And it is a responsibility of all of us not to be homophobic."

Hughley then makes another sweeping generalization, saying he's "never met a black atheist" because "we are so rooted in theology."

Got that? If you're an atheist, you're certainly not black, right?

Because blacks can only be one thing!

But Savage responds more diplomatically.

He says, "It needs to be articulated around religion and homosexuality is that you can have your theology and also sign off on gay and lesbian civil rights and full enfranchisement, including marriage. You know, a lot of Christians think Jews are going to hell. Right? And yet Jews can get married in our culture. No one's attempting to strip Jews of their civil rights in our dominant Christian culture."

Hughley tries to use God as an excuse for hate once again with "You stand before God and you vow to love and to cherish this woman or this man. And so I think people have a — I know particularly people that I talked to — had a hard time unhooking the religious component from the civil."

To which Savage says, "But we've long unhooked the religious component from the civil component because you can go to city hall and get married and God will not be invoked. Those are the marriage licenses that we want. We don't want to storm into anybody's church and force anybody's preacher or any religious person to observe our wedding."

At the end, they tacitly agree to disagree, and Hughley so kindly wishes Savage good luck, saying, "Well I'll tell you what, being black, I can tell you, you got to march a little while longer and then it might happen. I promise."

Well gosh, thanks.
Being black and understanding what it's like to struggle, Hughley should be marching too.

We'd also like to remind you that regardless of race, the under-30 population voted overwhemlingly agrainst Prop 8. This isn't the first time the issue was on the ballot and it certainly isn't the last.
Wether you like it or not, you're going to end up buying a toaster for your friend or relative's gay wedding!
Make sure it matches the curtains, okay?

Again I ask...Why is the goverment trying to get involved in two peoples personal affairs? What happened to separating GOVEREMENT AND RELIGION!?????

I was reading allhiphop.com when...

I came across this qoute by some guy by the name of TRICK TRICK

“I’ma go on the record right now with this. Homosexuals are probably not gonna like this album,” Trick revealed to AllHipHop.com. “I don’t want your f****t money any goddamn way. I don’t like it [homosexuality]. Carry that s**t somewhere else.” On the self-titled album track called "Trick Trick," the Detroit rapper hurls vitriolic bars against gay activists Ellen DeGeneres and Rosie O’Donnell, referring to them as “dyke b**ches” and promising to send a “scud missile right through their f***ing cruise ship.” “It’s just that every time that you turn on the TV, that sissy s**t is on. And I address that issue. I address it hard as hell.”

woooooow really guy? sounds like someone needs a hug! Everyone has a right to freedom of speech so it's not like anyone can stop him or anyone else from saying ignorant things like this...but wasn't there a time when certain people couldnt stand a certain race...and pretty much made it clear then and NOW...just a thought.

How the heck do you go on Ellen?! maybe he's just mad he can't dance! Ellen has moves!

It was a SHAM from the start!

It was all a sham...it traces back to a monk named St. Nicolas. It is believed that Nicholas was born sometime around 280 A.D. in Patara, near Myra in modern-day Turkey. Much admired for his piety and kindness, St. Nicholas became the subject of many legends. It is said that he gave away all of his inherited wealth and traveled the countryside helping the poor and sick. Read more about this and how Santa came over to the states

The History of Christmas

When you think of Christmas what comes to mind? the birth of Christ, exchanging gifts, big dinners, Christmas carols, shows, movies and of course Santa (I'll get in to Santa later but first Christmas). Well I did a big of research a few months back and realized that Christmas had nothing to do with Christ in the begining. Click here to read some facts.

According to http://www.history.com/

Centuries before the arrival of the man called Jesus, early Europeans celbrated light and birth in the darkest days of winter. Many poeple rejoiced during the winter solstice, when the worst winter was behind them and they could look forward to longer days and extended hours of sunlight.
In Scandinavia, the Norse celebrated Yule from December 21, the winter solstice, through January. In recogtion of the return of the sun, fathers and sons would bring home large logs, which they would set on fire. The Norse believed that each spark from the fire represented a new pig or calf that wuld be born during the coming year.
In Germany, people honored the pagan god Oden during the mid-winter holiday. Germans were terrified of Oden, as they blieved he made nocturmal flights through the sky to observe his people, and then decide who would prosper or perish. Because of his presence, many people chose to stay inside.
In Rome, where winters were not as harsh as those in the far north, Saturnalia—a holiday in honor of Saturn, the god of agriculture—was celebrated. Beginning in the week leading up to the winter solstice and continuing for a full month, Saturnalia was a hedonistic time, when food and drink were plentiful and the normal Roman social order was turned upside down. For a month, slaves would become masters. Peasants were in command of the city. Business and schools were closed so that everyone could join in the fun. Also around the time of the winter solstice, Romans observed Juvenalia, a feast honoring the children of Rome. In addition, members of the upper classes often celebrated the birthday of Mithra, the god of the unconquerable sun, on December 25. It was believed that Mithra, an infant god, was born of a rock. For some Romans, Mithra's birthday was the most sacred day of the year.

In the early years of Christianity, Easter was the main holiday; the birth of Jesus was not celebrated. In the fourth century, church officials decided to institute the birth of Jesus as a holiday. Unfortunately, the Bible does not mention date for his birth (a fact Puritans later pointed out in order to deny the legitimacy of the celebration). Although some evidence suggests that his birth may have occurred in the spring (why would shepherds be herding in the middle of winter?), Pope Julius I chose December 25. It is commonly believed that the church chose this date in an effort to adopt and absorb the traditions of the pagan Saturnalia festival. First called the Feast of the Nativity, the custom spread to Egypt by 432 and to England by the end of the sixth century. By the end of the eighth century, the celebration of Christmas had spread all the way to Scandinavia. Today, in the Greek and Russian orthodox churches, Christmas is celebrated 13 days after the 25th, which is also referred to as the Epiphany or Three Kings Day. This is the day it is believed that the three wise men finally found Jesus in the manger.
By holding Christmas at the same time as traditional winter solstice festivals, church leaders increased the chances that Christmas would be popularly embraced, but gave up the ability to dictate how it was celebrated. By the Middle Ages, Christianity had, for the most part, replaced pagan religion. On Christmas, believers attended church, then celebrated raucously in a drunken, carnival-like atmosphere similar to today's Mardi Gras. Each year, a beggar or student would be crowned the "lord of misrule" and eager celebrants played the part of his subjects. The poor would go to the houses of the rich and demand their best food and drink. If owners failed to comply, their visitors would most likely terrorize them with mischief. Christmas became the time of year when the upper classes could repay their real or imagined "debt" to society by entertaining less fortunate citizens.
Find out how Christams came to be in America.
Read more about it here
and more

Pennies...Useless or Useful?

I was posed this question and I thought to myself...we still need them to make exact change and if we do get rid of it wouldn't it make everything expensive since companies won't be nice enough to round down...but why is it that you can't use them on the bus or pay phones? so I did some research and came across these answers on YahooAnswers.com

SoldierLover says: NO WAY! How do you think Abe feels right now? Besided thats just giving people more money or less depending if we only round up or can round down! Think about it pennys add up! We'd be giving away MILLIONS of dollars every year to businesses! Plus dont we already have enough pennys circulating to do the job? so who needs new ones? How about just makeing them every 3-5 years? that way it cuts back on the costs or make them out of something cheaper and color them. Poor ABE!

iluvtehfishes says: No we shouldn't. What if something is $7.53...you pay $7.55...what are you going to get back if there are no pennies?!? The pennies balance things out and pennies add up after awhile. Oh, and I pick up every penny I find unless it's covered in mud or something.

Randy G says: Yea, why do we have the penny? Other countries have gotten rid of their low valued coins -- so why not the US?Most transactions take place electronically anyway, so physical money might be on the way out.

jmann says: the government has been trying for years to get rid of the penny. truth be told they can not find a way to do it, it is essential to commerce. everything would instantly become more expensive ( i doubt a company would round down a price)

so what do you think?

Next....The History of Christmas...not what you think it is buddy...

The Boondocks is a GREAT show and if you haven't seen at least season 1 you are slipping and need to get on it! Anyway there is an episode I saw called "A Huey Freeman Christmas". Where he goes in to the origin of Christmas. Take a look at the clip (forward it to 5:00 exactly!)

and then I will provide you with some background information supporting everything he says, including going in to the rest of the part they WHAWHAWHA'd out about the goverment.

Source
The most common justification that one will hear regarding Christmas is that people have replaced old pagan customs and intents by asserting that they are now “focusing on Christ.” I have heard many say that they are “honoring Christ” in their Christmas-keeping. The problem is that God does not say this is acceptable to Him! Actually, He plainly commands against it! Keeping Christmas dishonors Christ! He considers everything about it to be an abomination!Christ said, “But in vain they do worship Me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men” (Matt. 15:9). Christmas is not a command of God—it is a tradition of men. Christ continued, “Full well you reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your own tradition” (Mark 7:9). Every year, throughout the world, on December 25th, hundreds of millions do just that!

Was Christ even born on December 25th?

Not according to this : Christ was born in the fall of the year. Many have mistakenly believed He was born around the beginning of winter—December 25th! They are wrong! Notice the Adam Clarke Commentary, volume 5, page 370, New York edition: “It was custom among Jews to send out their sheep to the deserts about the Passover [early spring], and bring them home at the commencement of the first rain.” The first rains began in early-to-mid fall. Continuing with this same quote: “During the time they were out, the shepherds watched them night and day. As…the first rain began early in the month of March-esvan, which answers to part of our October and November [begins sometime in October], we find that the sheep were kept out in the open country during the whole summer. And as these shepherds had not yet brought home their flocks, it is a presumptive argument that October had not yet commenced, and that, consequently, our Lord was not born on the 25th of December, when no flocks were out in the fields; nor could He have been born later than September, as the flocks were still in the fields by night. On this very ground, the nativity in December should be given up. The feeding of the flocks by night in the fields is a chronological fact…See the quotations from the Talmudists in Lightfoot.”
Luke 2:8 explains that when Christ was born, “And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.” Note that they were “abiding” in the field. This never happened in December. Both Ezra 10:9-13 and the Song of Solomon 2:11 show that winter was the rainy season and shepherds could not stay on cold, open fields at night.
Numerous encyclopedias plainly state that Christ was not born on December 25th! The Catholic Encyclopedia directly confirms this. In all likelihood, Christ was born in the fall! A lengthy technical explanation would prove this point.

SO this is the begining of what I will delve in to. We will get back to the religious aspect and now go in to the actual origin. Check out the next post

Would you rather have 80% or trade it for 20%?

Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT

And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..'

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Have a beautiful life people and just remember that 20% can be obtained out of that 80% if you both work at it.........

LOOK WHAT I MADE!!!!

Millie Freestyles...Who Did it BEST?!

Ok so the list goes on and on and on...this is all I felt like putting on!

C. Breezy, Usher, or O? Who is the better performer?

Personally I think Chris Brown stepped up his game in a major way! He pretty much stole the spot while Usher was huberbating...let's see what happens now that Usher is "back"...sorry O but ...your aight!

You Know What Grinds My Gears?

I go to get my lunch at the little cafe on my floor today and the lady that is usually there isn't there so to cover for her there is this other guy there...probably in his 40's and heavy set. Funny guy very talkative and friendly at least the few times I've seen him.
So he is there today and I am getting my lunch and he starts talking:

Guy: Lunch Here is expensive
Me: Yeah I know, but I didn't bring my lunch today so I gotta eat.
Guy: oh you normally bring lunch? what do you bring..tacos..faGEEtas??

(Pause...SMH)
Now I know its spelled Fajitas...but the man said faGEEtas! LMAO! but that is not what Grinds My Gears! This man assumed either that I was Mexican or that all Hispanic people eat Fajitas! WTF! C'mon guy! now there is nothing wrong with Mexicans but can we please realize that not all your Latino friends are from the same country! Not to mention we don't all eat the same food! First everyone assumed I knew what Pupusas were (Pupusas were first created by the Pipil tribes which lived in the territory which is now known as El Salvador.) El Salvador people NOT PERU!!!

(Convo Cont.)

Me: No...
Guy: oh so what you do make beans...(I cut him off at this point)
Me:... -. - chicken, rice, some times spaghetti, soup sandwiches...
Guy: oh ok...you speak very good English!
Me: well that's what happens when your in the country for 20 years!
Guy: Oh (with an embarrassed look on his face)

This man just swallowed both feet! I SPEAK VERY GOOD ENGLISH!?!?!?!? WTF IS THAT! Why do some people assume that every Hispanic you see doesn't speak the language or expect a thick accent???? Seriously what is that? I figured that as I got older this kind of stuff would desist but no no no...its here! like when I was little and American people would talk really loud and slow like I was deaf!! *sigh* I guess some folks just don't know any better...

So a note to you Americans..like my sergant always said DONT ASSUME ANYTHING OR YOU WILL MAKE AN ASS OUT OF YOU AND ME!!

Do Penguins Have Knees?

I only see their feet...so do they have knees? I asked my lemon and she said "yeah I think so because they have legs so I'm thinking they need something to help support their thights lol do they have thighs?" Great THANKS LEMON MORE QUESTIONS!

Then I asked my little sister... here's how that went

Lil Sis: No...
I say: They Have to!
Lil Sis: They Do?
Lil Sis: lmao how they can't bend them

(-.-) no help SHORTCAKERZ!

So now I ask do the have knees and thighs? I would think so right? where are they though? All these questions so I googled it...and after some research I found my answer!!!

ANSWER:

Yes. Penguins appear to have very short legs and no knees because only the lower leg is externally visible. Their knees and upper legs are feather covered, hiding them from view. This also means that penguins never get cold knees!

Courtesy of : http://www.penguin.net.nz/faq/faq.html